Her Campus Q&A: Relationships in College

Last week, Her Campus cofounder Stephanie Kaplan Lewis discussed her advice for joining sororities. This week she'll discuss another pressing issue: College relationships.

First, Her Campus cofounder and all-around college guru Stephanie Kaplan Lewis shared her advice on sororities. This time we’re talking all about college relationships, from friends to...more than friends.

Q: What are your recommendations for college students anxious about making new friends?

Stephanie Kaplan Lewis: Make an effort to meet new people at every opportunity. Try out a club or extracurricular activity that interests you. Attend a variety of on-campus events, join an intramural game, or talk to other students before class begins.

Q: How does dating in college compare to high school?

SKL: Once you’re on campus, you’re constantly meeting new people, which will inevitably lead to crushes, hook-ups, and/or relationships. For most students, college is the first time that they are away from their parents and their parents’ rules. With that independence comes the chance to make real-life relationship decisions—both great and not so great.  

Q: What are some of the warning signs of a toxic relationship (romantic or otherwise)?

SKL: It’s important to know the early signs of abuse so you can spot them in your own relationships as well as your friends’. These can include blaming negative feelings on another person, becoming insensitive to others, believing that he or she deserves special treatment, creating big problems out of small issues, getting jealous or upset if you look at someone else, and not caring about whether you are comfortable in the relationship.

Q: How can students accustomed to college freedom make their visits back home—and back to their parents’ rules—easier?

SKL: Discuss rules and boundaries with your parents right off the bat. Acting like a mature and independent adult by having an open conversation will do a lot more than yelling at your parents for giving you an 11:00 p.m. curfew. Try negotiating and finding a middle ground that you can all agree to. Also, be sure to keep in contact when you are out by sending a text or calling to check in.

Be sure to check out next week's post: Stephanie will be sharing more of her spot-on tips for college students.

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About Stephanie Kaplan Lewis

Stephanie Kaplan Lewis is the CEO & Editor-in-Chief of Her Campus. She has grown Her Campus to over 5.9 million monthly users with chapters at 270+ colleges worldwide. Stephanie also spearheads Her Campus's additional user-facing initiatives, including the Her Campus Blogger Network and High School Ambassador Program, Her Campus's book, The Her Campus Guide to College Life, and she led Her Campus's 2013 acquisition of HerUni Media Limited. She has been named to Inc.’s 30 Under 30, Businessweek’s 25 Under 25, The Boston Globe's 25 Under 25, Glamour’s 20 Amazing Young Women and The Boston Globe’s 25 Most Stylish Bostonians. She has served as a National Women’s Health Week Ambassador and a MassChallenge Alumna-in-Residence. Stephanie is a 2010 graduate of Harvard University, where she was a member of Delta Gamma. Some of her favorite things include doing barre classes, running (she recently completed her first Boston Marathon), watching Grey’s Anatomy, trying new nail polish colors, bargain shopping, watching cute animal videos, getting froyo (coffee with Reese's) with her best friend Jackie and vacationing in Maine with her husband, Jason.

Follow Stephanie on Twitter: @stephkaplewis


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