Social Networking in the Summer Before College

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Student, Brown University

Aug   2013

Wed

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With the advent of social networking tools like Facebook groups, American universities are welcoming their students, particularly internationals, with a new, exciting experience. Often established by the universities themselves, admitted student groups on websites such as Facebook are quickly becoming a staple of the summer before college. These groups allow students the world over to easily come together, discuss their interests, and pose questions about anything from pre-college requirements to university living, as they often include a few current undergraduate students as members as well. What I’ve come to notice, however, is that while such groups are likely to be beneficial to any and every incoming undergrad, the most active participants are usually international students.

Given the impending immersion into an unfamiliar culture, it only makes sense that we’re the most anxious about making the transition to college as easy as possible. But with such social resource, where posting a question can get an immediate response, use can easily become abuse. And posting repeatedly with what may be genuine curiosity and enthusiasm risks you the possibility of developing into an annoyance. So, here are a few pieces of advice I’ve drawn up to help you make the most out of admitted student groups without seeming like a pest.

Don’t feel the need to post every single day

In reality, this is advice I probably shouldn’t be giving, but I feel that I need to put it out there. In a perfect world, you should be able to post as much as you want and say everything that you need to say. But, in a large group of students, at least one person will feel annoyed if you decide to leave a post on the group every single day. It may not even have to do with what you’re posting. The sheer fact that you’re using the group so frequently may seem, to them, completely unnecessary.

Regardless, I sincerely believe that learning to limit your posting actually has its benefits. For one, you don’t want to run out of conversation starters. Keep a few of the subjects you’d like to discuss in the group for when you meet your peers in reality. Face-to-face conversations are always more interesting than digital ones. And second, when people know enough about you, they assume that they know everything about you. By posting on the admitted student group so frequently, it’s possible to give off the impression that you’ve already revealed the most interesting things about your character come orientation week. Maintain a little mystery for those first meetings in college.

Think before leaving a comment

Though this advice may actually be for general Internet usage, always remember that there is no need to record every thought you have on the Internet. It’s natural to have a reaction to every stimulus (i.e., a post on the Facebook group), but that doesn’t equate to a necessity to leave a comment upon almost every post. Often, this kind of compulsion manifests in the form of jokes. For every post you read, some kind of pun or display of sarcasm that seems clever and funny enters your thoughts, but I find there’s no need to share it every single time. It’s nice to come across something like that once in a while, but it loses its appeal when it’s done constantly.

Feel free to “like” as plenty of posts, though. It leaves the same sentiment as an empty comment: it shows that you care, but that you can’t really contribute anything of great importance.

Never hesitate to ask questions about culture

One area where I find you can never seem annoying or overly worried is in questions about culture. Nationals understand that the world you’re entering is unfamiliar and, being proud of who they are and what made them into the individuals they are today, they tend to welcome any concerns you have about customs and norms.

One post that became so interesting in my admitted student group was about the action of tipping, or leaving a small sum of money for someone who has been at your service (e.g., wait staff, cab driver, etc.). People from different nations had different experiences with tipping, ranging from being incredibly familiar with the action to not understanding how it works at all. And, more surprisingly, people from across the United States also had different views upon tipping, with some people having been taught that 20% was customary while others saw 10%–15% as already quite decent. Hence, if there’s any aspect of culture you’re confused about, don’t hesitate bringing it up in your student group.

Learn as much as you can

As surprising as it sounds, one of the best ways you can use the admitted student group as an international student is actually not through activity, but observation. As an international student there is a huge cultural gap between what you’re familiar with and what your peers are familiar with. As much as being different makes you unique and incredibly valuable to the student community, sometimes, being an international student may cause other individuals to perceive you as too “foreign,” for lack of a better word.

So, if some of the students’ discussions in your admitted students group show a prevalent common interest in a TV show or a band unknown to you, take the time to look them up and see if maybe it’s something that interests you as well. There is truly no better way to learn about the culture you’re about to surround yourself in than from the very people who live it each day. So don’t hesitate to use them as fountains of information. You can never have too much in your arsenal of conversation topics for those first days of orientation.

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