Unless it is a financial consideration, the decision is the student's. It is the student who has to live at the college, not the parent.
Tell the student that she can take one year to work at something productive and to begin to pay her own bills, including her rent to you, car insurance, dry cleaning, etc.
Izzy Kalman has written a number of good books and has other materials on ways to react to bullying to render it ineffective. His books are written for a younger audience as well, but they are wonderful resources for students of any age.
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The college search should begin in earnest in the second half of junior year. This can be preceded by a year or so of unofficial college visits so that the student can see various types of colleges (city, rural, large, small, etc.).
Parents should be the student's cheerleaders. They should also remember that this is the student's process to drive and that it is the student who is going to college.