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Top Tips to Find a College Roommate Who Matches Your Lifestyle

You've moved on from the college search to the roommate search! Here's how you can find a roomie you'll get along with the whole school year.

One of the most exciting and stressful parts of getting into college is finding a roommate. This person will be sharing a very small space with you for the next year. You don’t want to be stuck with someone who doesn’t mesh with you—everyone has heard horror stories about being exiled from their room every other night, or of roommates constantly breaking rules or making a mess. Alternatively, you also hear stories about roommates who become best friends and are the maid of honor at each other’s weddings. The question is: How do you work to make sure you end up with the latter (or a happy medium)?

Be honest about yourself and your needs

First of all, be honest with yourself. If you’re messy and don’t plan on becoming a neat freak in the next few months, don’t claim you’re “neat but are okay with a little bit of a mess.” If your roommate really likes a clean room, it will create a lot of problems in the future. Honesty is going to be so much better for your future roommate relationship. And the same goes for knowing what you want in a college roommate. Are you intending to use your dorm space for more social activities, a place to study, or just a place to decompress? Are you an early bird or a night owl? Would you mind a roommate who does a lot of partying, or do you want someone who keeps to themselves? Talking about these preferences is essential before moving into your dorm at the beginning of the semester. Later on, it can also be helpful to make a roommate agreement to set some mutual guidelines, which can help you avoid potential issues.

Related: Strangers or Besties? Developing a Good Dynamic With Your College Roommates

Know where to look

Once you have an idea of how you will be living and what you want in a roommate, it’s time to start looking! Most colleges will have some sort of Residential Life page on their websites that's dedicated to matching roommates and includes questionnaires regarding important roommate information: sleep schedule, messiness, the intent of the room space, etc. It helps narrow down the search, but you shouldn’t stop looking there; colleges set up a ton of other ways for rising first-years to connect. This could mean going to the Facebook group that most colleges have and asking if people are still looking, adding students on Snapchat or Instagram and talking there, or even exchanging phone numbers. Talk to as many people as you want, because even if you don’t find a roommate, you may find a new friend you can meet up with in the fall.

Find shared interests

Not sure who you might get along with? Try to find someone in your major. You could end up having an overlap in classes, which makes it really easy to find a study buddy. Not only that, but it creates a common ground, so you won’t be sharing a room with a total stranger for eight months. On the other hand, there can be such a thing as too much time together—if you need space, it might be hard to find it with such similar schedules. There are a lot of benefits to living with someone in a completely different major too, so don’t rule out anything before getting to know a potential roommate further. Which leads me to the last tip…

Communicate before moving in

You need to talk to someone before becoming their roommate! While the questionnaires most colleges provide are a good base, there aren’t a whole lot of questions that attest to someone’s actual personality. While you may like their sleep or cleanliness habits, you might not mesh with them at all. Give them your social media handles and talk to them for a while before making a decision.

And once you decide to live together, keep communicating about other things. Have you decided what you are bringing with you to college? Are you going to be the one to have a mini-fridge, or are you hoping your roommate will bring one if you bring a coffee pot? You’ll have to share a lot of the bigger furniture or electronics, so make a plan together. Evaluate necessities: yes, you will need a fridge or a microwave, but will you be content without a TV? If not, one of you will have to bring one.

Related: 3 Ways to Establish a Good Relationship With Your New Roommate

Skip the stress and get an assigned roommate

If you feel like you aren’t connecting with anyone, or you don’t want to deal with the stress of talking to so many people, most colleges have a randomized roommate option. While you won’t know who you’re rooming with until you receive your housing assignment—meaning you could be matched with someone who you don’t exactly mesh with—you could also end up with the perfect person for you. You never know. Finding a roommate can be hard but also a lot of fun. It’s just one more thing to look forward to before college starts in the fall!

Did you know we have a great student community on social media? Our platforms could be a great place to connect with your potential future roommate!

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About Zia Sampson

Zia Sampson

I am currently a first-year student at Loyola University New Orleans, where I'm majoring in Mass Communications, both Strategic Communications and Journalism, and minoring in Sociology. I'm in the University Honors Program and the Social Justice Scholars Program. In my free time, I like to watch Netflix, sleep, and read. I am a big animal lover, with four cats and two dogs, and I have two older brothers and a twin sister. You can follow me on Twitter @ZiaSampson.


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